Divorcing a Narcissist
Divorce is an emotionally-and often financially-devastating experience. When we marry, we feel secure in our relationship and in our dreams for the future. By no means do we expect a painful divorce to unfold down the road. Divorce can often feel like a public failure, a personal defeat that is inevitably exposed to our social and professional circles. We not only have to grapple with our personal experience, but with onlookers curiously looking in. When children are involved, we agonize about how the divorce is affecting them and how on earth we will manage to successfully co-parent with our ex.
Divorcing a narcissist, can be considered the worst-case scenario of divorce. Our fears of a long, drawn-out and ugly divorce is almost to be expected when one of the partners suffers from narcissism.
In her article “13 Essential Tips if You Are Divorcing a Narcissist,” author Peg Streep offers an excellent description of what to expect from a narcissistic partner in the divorce process. Drawing from psychologist Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists, and Vermont based attorney, Mary Kirkpatrick, Streep also outlines strategies, which are imperative for those entering or passing through the divorce process.
Reading this article may engender fear and anxiety about your relationship and your future. As a necessary foundation of support, Streep emphasizes the importance of finding “a good therapist” and an experienced attorney who are both familiar with narcissistic relationship patterns. If this article strikes a chord, consider scheduling a consultation session in order to begin building the framework of support that is both necessary and deserved when divorcing your partner.
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